TIPS FOR HANDLING FATHER'S DAY AFTER DIVORCE
June 15, 2021
As a father that has recently been separated or divorced, you may be feeling anxious about the upcoming Father's Day holiday. While it is understandable to be dealing with a mix of emotions surrounding this day it is also an opportunity to focus on your children and make this special day memorable regardless of your current circumstances. Here are some tips to make sure Father's Day is a celebrated and positive occasion for you and your children.
Have a Plan in Place
One of the most important steps you can take to ensure you and your children are able to celebrate Father's Day in a meaningful way is to make arrangements beforehand. Communicate with the children's other parent about scheduling and possible plans with the children. Remember to remain cordial and respectful and limit communications to only the matters regarding the children and the upcoming special occasion. If possible, keep your ex-spouse in the loop about possible plans in order to ease any possible worries they may have.
Focus on Quality, not Quantity
The reality is that with conflicting schedules and visitation arrangements it may not be possible for you to spend as much time as you would like with your children. Even if you are unable to be present on the day physically, you should make an effort to connect with your children in some way during this day. Whether through a phone call, video call, or in-person visit your presence for your children on this day will be impactful for them.
Regardless of your situation make sure to focus on your children's well-being. Oftentimes, parents overlook the importance of this day may have for the children themselves. They have likely spent time thinking of the occasion and preparing gifts or cards to celebrate their fathers. Even if the time with your children is limited it is significant to connect with them in some way to let them know they are loved and being thought of.
Keep it Fun
When preparing for your upcoming visit with your children on Father's Day it is best to keep the day as positive and fun as possible for all of you. Think about their interests and make plans to spend quality time participating in some kind of activity you will all enjoy. Even a special meal or a quick nature hike can be a cherished memory for you and your kids.
Keep the Lines of Communication Open
As you spend time with your children or contact them on the upcoming Father's Day it is essential that you do so in a positive manner. After all, you want to make sure your children are comfortable with you at all times and will look to you for guidance and support in the future. If they bring up their other parent in conversation be supportive and encouraging; do not make them feel hesitant or censored when they are around you. Remain respectful of your ex at all times and avoid speaking negatively or questioning them about their other parent. Keep your focus on building a strong relationship with your children with the time that you have together.
Father's Day is a day to celebrate the importance of your presence and impact on your children's lives. It can be a difficult day that will also bring to the surface some uncomfortable feelings of sadness or loss. These are normal and expected emotions for individuals that have experienced a recent separation or divorce. Do not let these emotions be your sole focus for the day; maintain a positive and hopeful outlook to celebrate your fatherhood alongside your children on this special day.
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